CurlyDollTati #166

                                       Why Can’t You Just Notice Me?

    Have you ever binged social media? You stay online for hours in hopes to get a reaction out of someone from your most recent post. You stay online in hopes that one of your friends or followers will send you a message. It’s like waiting by the telephone in the 90’s just hoping that someone will invite you out with them.  As the waiting gets longer the feeling for validation through a “heart” or “like” gets even more intense.  You start to take selfies now, but you didn’t get that dressed up today so now you feel like you’re not beautiful because the camera lies to you. You go in your closet and rip your clothes off the hangers trying everything on and nothing seems to fit right. You find that one top that shows a little extra and those jeans that fit snug. You look in the mirror and say “I look cute.” You start taking photos that you shouldn’t be taking. “Oh my gosh. If my crush would just notice me! If only my photo would go viral. Then I would never need to clock in or go to school. I never have any time for me anymore.” You’ve created an atmosphere of being alone and now you just don’t have anyone to notice you because you’re almost invisible. You’re only seen when you go to work or school. 
Why are you searching for other people to validate you through a computer?  You want people to notice you because you think it will bring you riches, popularity, and love. 


                                                                Riches.
    You want people to notice you because you think it will bring you riches. Know that riches don’t mean everything. God wants your finances to be blessed because with a giving heart He knows that you will do good things on the earth. He wants you to be a light for all people to see when you do good deeds. A lot of people want wealth because of the freedom that it brings. Money buys them things that they can use to enjoy their life. It’s okay to spend money on yourself when you are rich, but it’s not okay to overindulge and be selfish with your money. It’s not okay to waste money.  God can easily take your money away at any time.  If you ask why people stay rich while they are wasteful with their finances just know that they are not rich in wisdom. God has a plan. It is not a revengeful one because God is a good Father. It is a plan that works out for the good of the world.  It is a plan to get the people who are open to His word and His plan saved.  If you don’t have riches or maybe you don’t even have a dollar to spare, don’t be discouraged. Stay encouraged. It is a time to be wise and creative with your money. Growing up I did not have a lot of money to spend on toys, popular brands of clothing, and quality food.  I learned to only buy what I would use and appreciate what I had to play with. I learned to be creative with my outfits. I stitched together old pieces of fabric. I developed confidence to wear them to school.  I learned how to compare prices to get the most for my money.  It is time for you to grow into the person that God called you to be and develop good character traits like patience, kindness, and a giving spirit.     

                                                               Popularity. 
    Popularity is something that a lot of people strive for because popular people are in the spotlight. You can see them and you get to know famous people through what they display for you on social media. Sometimes a famous person can be molded to look like someone they are not by their manager or even people that don’t like them. Famous people have a lot of people around them constantly to help them maintain an image but they don’t necessarily know who their real friends are. Some people stick around them for the benefits of being around a famous person. They believe that their lives will be leveled up because they know someone that everyone seems to know. Famous people can be popular or not popular. Sometimes famous people are extremely criticized for what they do. A lot of the criticism is meaningless. Sometimes popular people are not famous, but they are well known in their community or have a fan base. Just because a lot of people know them doesn’t mean they are happy. It doesn’t mean that they are loved by those people. It doesn’t mean they feel fulfilled or do good deeds for humanity. 
    Sometimes God will ask a person to do more for the people around them. The one time a popular person feeds the homeless, it is captured on camera for everyone to see.  You automatically form an opinion based off of that.  Try to form a better opinion on a person by doing your research on the history of their goodness. Jesus Himself left a track record in the Bible of all the good deeds He has done because He knew that to effectively communicate with humans he needed proof and a record. He knew that we would form opinions based off of evidence and for some people, it still wasn’t enough to leave a track record of dying on a cross and rising again for the sins of the world. God wants us to do our good deeds out in the open for everyone to see. If you have an issue with yourself not being popular or famous work on your personal character traits like being generous or a giver. Help people when people are looking and when people are not looking. Fame and popularity is NOT more important than loving God and loving people.    


                                                                 Love
    Love is patience and kindness. Love is putting others needs before your own. Love is favor and grace. Love does not put want first, but it puts giving first. If you want an example of what real love is just look at the story of Jesus.  Please do not mistake want and entitlement feelings for love. Don’t mistake chest pains or goosebumps for love. Don’t mistake spiritual bonds or mirroring for love. You will be heavily disappointed when you realize the sharp reality. A lot of people all over the world still don’t understand love. Lack of understanding contributes to divorce and broken hearts. You want your crush to notice you. I get it. Him noticing you will most certainly put you in the running for a love connection. If you are going to marry and are going to stay married you need a bond that is thicker than having sex, having a child, having the same hobbies, liking the same music, or requiring your husband to fill your voids.  You need a bond that is thicker than being a “power couple.” You want him to notice you but noticing your curves, hair color, and beautiful eyes before noticing your heart will set the tone for the relationship. It is very difficult to backtrack. A man that is ready to court you will notice your beautiful heart before anything else. You must set the tone to meet him before he comes along. Perhaps you already know him. You must work on your heart first and grow spiritually before you accept an invitation to even awaken love. Do not spend so much time placing how you look before tackling areas of your heart.

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