 Stop Testing Him Out A lot of women do this. They meet a nice guy. He makes them feel special, but they can’t picture themselves with him long term. They stay in the relationship and try to convince themselves that maybe he is “the One”. They stay in the relationship because of the way they are treated whether it is good or bad. What they want is a boyfriend, but not a husband. They want a boy to act like their husband for the benefits of having a man around. One of them is going to get hurt. With one person having expectations for marriage and the other one undecided why are they running in circles? They can spend their time and their energy on making themselves better or actually finding and being with the right person. You know? The person that satisfies them as a whole. He is enough for her and she is enough for him. They can do life together, start a family, and live out their lifes calling. With hushed minds teetering for a long while in the maybe stages of the relationship for too long, it is enough to derail both people from their purpose and cause more harm than good. Don’t take advantage of him. Don’t play house. Don’t make him do stuff for you. You know you are not going to change your mind. It’s been over 6 months and you are still waiting for the same man to prove that he is husband material? Why are you not convinced? Why are you not satisfied? Love is consistent in character. If he can’t prove he is your husband within the first few dates…If you can’t see yourself with him for the rest of your life within the first few dates, you ain’t never gonna see it. You may be persuaded to settle. Settling will destroy your life because you will always want to cheat and think the grass is greener on the other side. Why do you keep testing him out? He is somebody else's husband. He doesn’t belong to you. His wife will have to deal with the trauma of your past emotional baggage. He could be scarred from you. You may be helping to destroy a future family. To be honest, what is even worse than that is distracting him from his purpose and derailing him from his goals in life so he can almost satisfy you. Don’t try to convince yourself that he is the one. Let your developing relationship flow naturally. Release yourself from anxiety and depression. You feel the way you do for a reason and by no mistake. Even If you don’t understand your emotions yet trust your intuition and your God-given feelings about people. Follow your peace and align up your intentions in everything you do with Gods commandments. The man you are considering for you might not even be a bad person. You may just have a bad feeling about them being with you. They could have been a really cool friend. You will miss out on that if you use the person for lust, fear, and anxiety. Date to Marry You are still single past a certain age. You need to put your priorities in order. You don’t want to try to be with someone you will end up cheating on because you have a preference. Cheating starts in the heart and in the mind. When you are young or even older, it is okay to get to know different types of guys to find out what you like and want. Dates without commitment. Dates with a pure and genuine responsibility of self control. Dates with wisdom and commitment to your own values. Find a trustworthy and wise person who can be your accountability partner and speak wisdom to you. If you already know what you want there is no reason to try things out. Save yourself the heartache and the disappointment. There is a list of things you should consider before you give a man your time, your full heart, and commitment. End feelings of wanting to own a person. Let go and let God work. No matter how bad you want them or how much you feel God sent them for you, whatever is meant to be will be. Let God take priority and ownership over you as an individual and your love life. You cannot earn a person. It’s by the grace of God that marriage exists and marriage is a miracle. 1. Physical Attraction and Chemistry a.) Without this very important detail when times get rough you will have no reason to cling to each other. If you’re mad at him while you are married to him he will be much less attractive if you settle for less than you are attracted to. If he is attractive from the get go, at least when you are mad at him you will have something spicy and sweet to hold. b.) Do your conversations with him have a nice flow or are they always one sided? 2. Religious Background and Ideas on Religion Important Questions to ask him and yourself: a.) What is the purpose of life? b.) What is the purpose of marriage? c.) What is his religion and will you be able to accept it? Will he be able to accept your religion, your religious traditions, and the way you view religion? d.) Do you know your purpose already and does he know his purpose already? Will those purposes be able to mesh well? If one of you doesn’t know their purpose yet and the other one does could that be a potential issue? e.) How passionate is he about your purpose? Does he believe in your dreams and do you believe in his? 3. Current Close Family Connections a.) If you can’t get along with the family member that is most influential in his life how will you be able to maintain the relationship? Be prepared for them to choose that family member over you..who are not family. Marriage might not change how that family member views you. It might just make problems surface even more. Don’t be surprised if your hubby even goes to that family member that you don’t get along with for advice. Don’t be surprised if they seem like they don’t get along with them one moment and then get along with them the next. Family ties are deep rooted and a hard bond to break. If you are not willing to put up and be quiet sometimes in topics regarding that family member then don’t continue to invest your heart. Love is about sacrificing without compromising. Just look at Jesus dying on the cross for our sins. He is a perfect example of true love. 4. Ideas On Future Family Life And Family Upbringing a.) Are you willing to come to terms with your man having a traumatic past? Maybe you had a traumatic family upbringing yourself. Find out how he stands. Is he going to be an extension of the cycle or is he determined to break that cycle? For example; Maybe his father was an alcoholic. Does he drink? Does he know what he’s susceptible to and is he adamant for change? What are you willing to accept? Don’t fake your truth. Not even in the beginning. 5. His Definition of Love and How He Loves To Be Loved a.) Without some sort of sacrifice, there is no love. Love is not talk alone. If he can’t sacrifice for you in the beginning of the relationship there is no mutual relationship. You will have to sacrifice for him too but it doesn’t mean you should compromise your values or your safety. Men sacrifice in different ways than women. In efforts to prove their love is genuine sacrifice will be a strong tell tale if he values you especially in the beginning of a relationship. If he is not sacrificing for you don’t be surprised that you are not the only one. His word is not valid until proven. Believe him, but air on the side of caution. If you give your whole heart be aware of the risks you are taking when he’s only giving a small portion of his. It doesn’t mean that you should never open your heart and give it your all. It just means you may need a strong foundation in Jesus to love you when you are left heartbroken. The One on Earth that has displayed His heart to us spiritual beings is the Lord. Jesus died for the sins of the world and He still loves us even when we neglect Him. Love is Sacrifice and Jesus continues to chase after our hearts. 6. Chivalry: Is He A Gentlemen? Halfway Or All the Time? a.) If he is only a gentleman when it’s convenient for him, sometimes, or rarely it is all an act. It is very difficult to train a man to do what you want especially when you have already accepted mediocracy. If he is going to be your king act like a queen. Even a king should honor his queen. 7. Generosity a.) Is he generous with his money? Does he offer to buy things for you? Does he surprise you with thoughtful gifts to please nobody but you? His generosity now will surely be a small representation of the future with you. Think about the gifts that you have received. Was it to please himself or you? 8. Hygiene And Cleanliness a.) Does he take care of himself or is he in an emotional stage in his life? If he can’t take care of himself what makes you think that he can take care of you? Your children? When you go out for a weekend with the girls will you come back having to put the pieces back together in your family or will he have it all under control? 9. Friendships a.) Who you hang out with on a regular basis is a strong indication of where you are at in your life. It doesn’t matter what kind of friends we find ourselves making. Being a friendly person is an asset. Are you strong enough to be an influencer of that person who is weaker than you? I’m not talking about physical strength. I’m talking about mental strength and security in yourself on the inside. A lost friendship would be one that you continue to invest your time in and all that person does is take from you. Know when to leave. Do not settle for that friendship just because there are no available options at the time of the sever. God wants you to cling to Him as a friend. God may be preparing you and setting yourself up to meet people who you can fill and that can fill you. Maybe you don’t want to sever a tie completely because you really genuinely care about your friends well being. Choose how often you are committing to that person who drains you. Remember that when choosing a husband you must be aware of the friendships that he has. His friendships might have the power to manipulate his mind. Is he influenced by certain people or is he the influencer? If you are still not married the best mate would probably be someone who is stronger than you if you are basing your relationship on the Christian principles of marriage. Relationships are about making each other better and stronger. 10. Openness a.) If he’s not open with you, he’s hiding something and he still has a guard on his heart. If you are considering telling your deepest secrets and he is not telling you his then don’t go any further with trust! Your questions deserve an answer especially when you are open. Be selective with your secrets and personal treasures. If you feel so inclined to tell all don’t and write your secrets down in a journal for your eyes only or confide in a friend who has earned your trust. 11. Does He Keep His Word? a.) No matter how small the promise is he should be keeping his end of the bargain. Don’t make excuses for him. Don’t disregard a small lie. A person of truth follows through with their word no matter how small the promise is. If there is a misstep with the truth…find out what that reason is. Are you willing to forgive and forget or will you keep record of the wrong? Weigh out the pros and cons and ask God for wisdom. 12. Racial Background a.) So you are attracted to someone of a different race and he is attracted to you. If you are willing to accept each other everything will be fine right? In a perfect world that doesn’t judge color; maybe. Be prepared to be looked at by society because of the mix of races. Not just curiosity, but secret jealousy or race hate. Since the world is very connected this is just the reality of the world. Are you thick skinned? Will you be able to handle the constant criticism and the glares? Do you like that? How long will you like that or will it slowly eat at your feelings? He may stick up for you and love you but not love your people. That is a huge problem if you have a heart for your people and he does not. Will the heart for your people connect you to your purpose? Will your lover hold you back fom that or fully support you? Is he willing to turn his back from his own people to uphold what is just and true? Would he fight for your people without you in the picture? Mixed race couples can be beautiful but it’s not all looks. There is a secret pain behind it. Does that matter to you or do you not want to deal with that lifestyle? Is it healthy for you as an individual or are you strong? It’s all based off the couples individual needs and lifestyle. If you feel you are strong enough and you love, like, and accept the person then go for it. Interracial relationships can be a beautiful thing. Why Women Settle and How To Overcome Heartbrokenness Many girls grow up with ideas on what they want their husband to look like and act like. Those ideas and dreams are cultivated and groomed for the good or the bad as they get older. It’s great to have dreams. It’s great to have goals. It’s great to have a vision of how you want him to be. As girls get to be teenagers and young adults they date and start to have real relationships with boys and then men. As they kiss many frogs their vision becomes a little bit clearer in regard to the kind of husband they want to have. Some girls and women even become heart broken and lose hope. So many pressures are put on them such as the need for affection and affirmation. They may feel like they need to move out of their living situation. They feel they need to have children by a certain age. Why are we so needy all the time? Why does it have to be like that? If you have a boyfriend or husband that is a blessing. Cherish what you have. Follow your peace. If you don’t or maybe you are in a toxic relationship, get to know your Creator God. Accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior. Accept the Holy Spirit as your Guide. Study Gods Ten Commandments and make intentional choices to align yourself with obeying them. Cut yourself off from things that cause you to be tempted to sin. Accept that you are forgiven by Jesus Christ dying on the cross for the sins of the world. Accept that Jesus loves you. Make intentional choices to live by faith and not by sight. Just because you want a man to be your husband and he doesn’t want you or he is living in sin doesn’t mean all hope is lost for you. Just because you are not attracted to anyone around you doesn’t mean all hope is lost for you. Just because you feel like it is a lost cause for you to find a husband who you can look up to doesn’t mean all hope is lost for you. Just because you may feel like you can never trust again doesn’t mean all hope is lost for you. You just need to live by faith and not by sight. Trust God to lead you. Make God your Husband and trust Him that He will lead you on the right path. If it is Gods will He will supply you with the right husband for you. If it is not His will for you to be married continue to trust Him. Fulfilling Gods purpose for your life is greater than any marriage or starting of a family. Don’t be so distracted by things of this world that you forget that your base purpose in life is to love the people around you and save souls for eternity with our Creator. Your identity and the love you are capable of receiving and feeling does not rely on having a physical life partner. Be strong in Christ and rely on Him to fill you up inside. If God is telling you to step out of your comfort zone to meet the right person then go for it. Don’t let fear or insecurity hold you back from finding love. Become secure in the Lamb of God and reach for the stars.
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 Topic: Why Should I Care About Chivalry?
To talk about chivalry first we have to define chivalry. Chivalry ties into traditional romantic values on how a man should treat the one that he loves. I went on dictionary.com and looked up the definition after I defined it myself. “Chivalry-the sum of the ideal qualifications of a knight, including courtesy, generosity, valor, and dexterity in arms. “ I also looked it up on vocabulary.com “Men behaving courteously toward women-holding the door for them, offering them their jackets when it’s cold-is called chivalry. Many women consider chivalry a lost art.” 1.) “the medieval principles governing knighthood ad knightly conduct.” 2.) courtesy towards women Valor -“Honor plus dignity. It’s gallant bravery and strength, especially on the battlefield or in the face of danger.” “strength, moral worth, courage.” Dexterity in Arms-“Mental dexterity means a sharpness of mind, or skill in thinking creatively and understanding and expressing something quickly and easily.” Why do we consider it a lost art? From my viewpoint times have changed tremendously. Women are going overboard giving all of themselves too quickly to men that change their minds. Just check out the song “Fifteen” by Taylor Swift. A man shows just a little interest and since the man is really attractive to the woman and seems like he’s got it all together on the outside she thinks that he is “the one”. I am not saying that physical appearance doesn’t matter. It does. I’m saying that it is important to first see the physical, like it, and then dig deeper to find how he values you and treats other people. The Age of Feminism Women keep saying that “we can do everything ourselves and we can do it better.” Well, there are certain things that men typically have more mastery, skill, and patience for. There are certain things that a woman has more of a skill and patience for naturally and biologically. That doesn’t mean that we can’t do it ourselves or do both. It just may be that they are better and more excited about it. For example, construction work, fixing cars, football, fighting etc. It takes a unique sort of woman to want to do these things and be skilled in it. There is nothing wrong with being skilled in these things as a woman. By all means, do what you love. But when it comes time to wanting to have a husband, you need to show him that you need him. Look on the flip side of the coin. How would it feel to you if the man you loved didn’t need you for anything? Where would your position be in the relationship? How would he value you? How would you establish your worth? Find out how your man or your potential mate feels about feminism and tell him your ideas on it. See if feministic views have a place in your relationship and how you both are expected to be treated. I know you can open your car door yourself, but why should you do it if it’s your mans opportunity to show you that he loves you? Dating to marry is about giving to each other within reason and within safety limits. Don’t allow him to put you in what feels like danger to you for the sake of equality in the relationship. You know your limits. Allow men to be men and there is nothing wrong to feel like a woman sometimes. Why This is Necessary for Nesting, Mating, and Marriage There are two other words that were part of the definition of chivalry. One was courtesy. Courtesy: Excellence of manners or social conduct; polite behavior This should be a no brainer but a man without manners is a loose canon. Manners are instilled in children. If he hasn’t gotten it by now it’s unlikely that you can change him. You can train him for what you like but you cannot change him. True love softens the heart. How many of us can say we are truly in love? Some of us only hope. Love is dead without action. Common courtesy is respectable. Think about the purpose of marriage. It is not only for yourself and your own needs but to show to others an example of what love is. Jesus gave of Himself on the cross for our sins so that later when we have accepted Him we can be married to Him. While we are on the earth we love as an example of Christs love for us. The most valuable, genuine, and unbreakable covenant on the earth is the oath when we say “I do.” The other definition of chivalry was generosity. Generosity: Readiness or liberality in giving If your soon to be husband is not generous what is the point of that? What can he contribute to the relationship? Love is about giving mentally and physically. And when I say physically I’m not talking about your body. There is a place for that in marriage. What about giving with faith that you will receive your blessing later? Giving without the intention to get. That is being a loving person. You can be a loving person yourself and still test your partner to see if he is giving as well. Just because he does not give to you doesn’t mean that he’s not a giving person. The love may not have grown enough. Pace yourself Ladies. Let him unlock your gifts at a slow pace. How Can We Bring It Back It is nobodies fault that chivalry seems like it’s dead. We are accountable to set our pace and our plans from the beginning of a relationship. It’s not our jobs to raise men, because he should have already been taught. If your man is not chivalrous do yourself a favor and love yourself enough to require that of him. Be open enough and brave enough to talk about it. If he loves you he will humble himself and stay for the love of you. He needs to want to make you happy. He needs to want to please you. If he doesn’t love you then he will leave. Why do you need to stay with someone that can’t do a simple task of opening the door for you? If he is afraid of how it looks to other people and he’s trying to “please the boys” he will prioritize “the boys” over you. If he is not doing it because he’s afraid to give into you, you may not be enough Proverbs 31 woman for him. He may still have resistance because he is traumatized by someone from his past that mistreated him. But you are different right? It takes 1 minute more to open up the door for you. All of those minutes add up and you are worth the extra time because you have value. If you are going to treat your man like a King he’d better treat you like a Queen. If you consider yourself to be a Queen, act like one. Do not settle to be treated as anything less. Know your worth and your value. If you treat men badly you are undeserving. Love him and yourself enough to change. If you are a man reading this also note: “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love your Enemies “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. Matthew 5:43-44  No More Empty Promises. It is My Decision It is wrong to make empty promises. What brings promises to be so empty? Why are people not coming to a decision before they make a promise? A promise is a promise. People should not let their hurt make them treat people the same negative way that they were treated. “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.”- Matthew 7:12 Make Words Mean Something Sometimes people don’t promise to be there for people, but they give them a verbal agreement. Make words wholesome to create an honest and true personality. “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.”-Ephesians 4:29 People shouldn’t give people their least. She gives her best. She does not let people feel disappointment when she is not there for them. She lets people feel blessed that she is around. “Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her..”-Proverbs 31:28 People will not feel blessed or miss a person if they keep canceling on them. If a person only shows up every now and then they won’t be able to sustain a relationship that way. We make decisions all day long like what latte we should order or what shoes we should wear, but when we include people in our decision making we should be careful to stay true. If people feel like they need more time to think about a decision they should take that time for themselves to pray about it and mediate on Gods word. A woman should not promise a man they will get married to them if they don’t have all the facts and they are still deciding. Girls should not promise a friend they will go shopping with them next week if they have not cleared out a time and a date. “Just say a simple, ‘Yes, I will,’ or ‘No, I won’t.’ Anything beyond this is from the evil one.” Matthew 5:37 Overpromising, Decisiveness, and Lying If a person overpromises, that means they are saying verbally with their mouth that they are going to do something and then they do not take further action to make it happen. If a person feels the strong need to commit, a smaller expectation is more manageable than a larger one. Still it is best to not make promises a person can’t keep. When people find themselves in situations where someone makes a promise to them and they feel under pressure to make a promise back, they should stand firm. Use phrases like “Hey, I’ll get back to you on that when my schedule clears up.” “No, I really don’t think that’s a good idea at this time.” “I need some time to think about it.” “Right now it’s a lot for me to commit to.” Or “I’m not convinced at this time.” “I’m looking forward in hope.” “I’m praying about it.” Sometimes not making a decision can be a terrible option but it’s up to you to decide when is the right time to take a leap of faith. People should not expect people who have already made up their minds to wait around for them too long to make a strong choice. “For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”-Matthew 18:20 God does not change His mind and neither should anyone. If a person changes their mind it is a human trait. Strive to be decisive before coming to a verbal agreement. “God is not a man, so He does not lie. He is not human, so He does not change His mind. Has He ever spoken and failed to act? Has He ever promised and not carried it through?"-Numbers 23:19 Disappointing People Disappointing people is embarrassing. It makes people look flakey and inconsistent. It makes people look forgetful. It also makes people look like they’re not appreciative of the time that other people took out of their day to be with them or work with them. When people are sick, they have an excuse to cancel on people. The person who you made arrangements with should understand suffering because of an illness or injury. Sometimes people disappoint people and it could be they have been struggling from a mental disposition or pain. A lot of people struggle mentally with different conditions that they cannot control. However, if they feel they have more control over it and they’re just not putting in the work, better late than never to change. No one has the right to say that a person does not have a mental illness or disposition if that person feels like they do. Sometimes the disposition is temporary, but only the person dealing with the pain can know what they are truly going through. Disappointing people can be necessary for better self help and mental help. Sometimes minds do change and that is perfectly okay. People should not make a habit out of changing their mind, but they are perfectly in the right to if they discover something that is a game changer. They are also in the right to change their mind if they need to take the time to work on themselves. Self love is important, but what is self love without loving a neighbor? No one can have one without the other. Love is prioritizing the needs and feelings of others. There are a lot of reasons why someone can feel disappointed by another person. In all of this it is important to stay truthful. If a person is unsure how to take the next step they should talk to God about their dilemma. They shouldn’t gossip to all their friends. Sometimes situations are allowed to happen because God wants to get people to rely on Him completely. God wants people to develop thier listening skills and being in tune to what the voice of His Spirit sounds like. “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger”-James 1:19 “My son, if you receive my words and treasure up my commandments with you, making your ear attentive to wisdom and inclining your heart to understanding; yes, if you call out for insight and raise your voice for understanding, if you seek it like silver and search for it as for hidden treasures, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God.”-Proverbs 2:1-5 Healing From Being Stood Up Healing from being stood up is not an easy task. A lot of people hurt from this. The reason a person may hurt is because it diminishes the value of how people see each other. All of the sudden a person who once felt special and important in a persons eyes, feels unimportant. It does not necessarily hurt less if a lot of people come through for a person. A person could be valuable to another person and all of the sudden they don’t feel secure in that relationship anymore. To be on a high and low rollercoaster constantly, is very emotionally exhausting. A person begins to lose sense of who they are without people around them. Relationships can develop to be defining of individuals. Sometimes a lot of sacrifices are made, said and unspoken to keep the bond. Healing from it, people need to know themselves. People need to know their worth. A person needs more than just a couple people around them. A person needs to find many people that would be encouragements in their lives. Joining a connect group, volunteering, working, and learning an interesting hobby are just some ways that people can heal. Talking about their problems with friends and family who they can trust to keep their personal life private is another way that a person can heal. Sometimes people just need to vent or talk it out. Writing feelings down in a journal helps. A really helpful thing is talking to God and praying about problems. God wants to build a relationship with everyone. “Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me.” Revelations 3:20 Unlike that boy that never called her back or stood her up for that date. Unlike her best friend that never seems to schedule the time to talk to her or see her. Unlike her family that never created a consistency of being there for her. Remember this verse to keep well dealing with emotions from being stood up or disappointed: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7 Try this prayer exercise: “I thank You God for [insert boy or girls name here]. I forgive them for [insert dissapointment]. Now I release them to You Lord to find thier purpose through Christ Jesus. Amen.” No more empty promises. It is my decision.  Why Can’t You Just Notice Me? Have you ever binged social media? You stay online for hours in hopes to get a reaction out of someone from your most recent post. You stay online in hopes that one of your friends or followers will send you a message. It’s like waiting by the telephone in the 90’s just hoping that someone will invite you out with them. As the waiting gets longer the feeling for validation through a “heart” or “like” gets even more intense. You start to take selfies now, but you didn’t get that dressed up today so now you feel like you’re not beautiful because the camera lies to you. You go in your closet and rip your clothes off the hangers trying everything on and nothing seems to fit right. You find that one top that shows a little extra and those jeans that fit snug. You look in the mirror and say “I look cute.” You start taking photos that you shouldn’t be taking. “Oh my gosh. If my crush would just notice me! If only my photo would go viral. Then I would never need to clock in or go to school. I never have any time for me anymore.” You’ve created an atmosphere of being alone and now you just don’t have anyone to notice you because you’re almost invisible. You’re only seen when you go to work or school. Why are you searching for other people to validate you through a computer? You want people to notice you because you think it will bring you riches, popularity, and love. Riches. You want people to notice you because you think it will bring you riches. Know that riches don’t mean everything. God wants your finances to be blessed because with a giving heart He knows that you will do good things on the earth. He wants you to be a light for all people to see when you do good deeds. A lot of people want wealth because of the freedom that it brings. Money buys them things that they can use to enjoy their life. It’s okay to spend money on yourself when you are rich, but it’s not okay to overindulge and be selfish with your money. It’s not okay to waste money. God can easily take your money away at any time. If you ask why people stay rich while they are wasteful with their finances just know that they are not rich in wisdom. God has a plan. It is not a revengeful one because God is a good Father. It is a plan that works out for the good of the world. It is a plan to get the people who are open to His word and His plan saved. If you don’t have riches or maybe you don’t even have a dollar to spare, don’t be discouraged. Stay encouraged. It is a time to be wise and creative with your money. Growing up I did not have a lot of money to spend on toys, popular brands of clothing, and quality food. I learned to only buy what I would use and appreciate what I had to play with. I learned to be creative with my outfits. I stitched together old pieces of fabric. I developed confidence to wear them to school. I learned how to compare prices to get the most for my money. It is time for you to grow into the person that God called you to be and develop good character traits like patience, kindness, and a giving spirit. Popularity. Popularity is something that a lot of people strive for because popular people are in the spotlight. You can see them and you get to know famous people through what they display for you on social media. Sometimes a famous person can be molded to look like someone they are not by their manager or even people that don’t like them. Famous people have a lot of people around them constantly to help them maintain an image but they don’t necessarily know who their real friends are. Some people stick around them for the benefits of being around a famous person. They believe that their lives will be leveled up because they know someone that everyone seems to know. Famous people can be popular or not popular. Sometimes famous people are extremely criticized for what they do. A lot of the criticism is meaningless. Sometimes popular people are not famous, but they are well known in their community or have a fan base. Just because a lot of people know them doesn’t mean they are happy. It doesn’t mean that they are loved by those people. It doesn’t mean they feel fulfilled or do good deeds for humanity. Sometimes God will ask a person to do more for the people around them. The one time a popular person feeds the homeless, it is captured on camera for everyone to see. You automatically form an opinion based off of that. Try to form a better opinion on a person by doing your research on the history of their goodness. Jesus Himself left a track record in the Bible of all the good deeds He has done because He knew that to effectively communicate with humans he needed proof and a record. He knew that we would form opinions based off of evidence and for some people, it still wasn’t enough to leave a track record of dying on a cross and rising again for the sins of the world. God wants us to do our good deeds out in the open for everyone to see. If you have an issue with yourself not being popular or famous work on your personal character traits like being generous or a giver. Help people when people are looking and when people are not looking. Fame and popularity is NOT more important than loving God and loving people. Love Love is patience and kindness. Love is putting others needs before your own. Love is favor and grace. Love does not put want first, but it puts giving first. If you want an example of what real love is just look at the story of Jesus. Please do not mistake want and entitlement feelings for love. Don’t mistake chest pains or goosebumps for love. Don’t mistake spiritual bonds or mirroring for love. You will be heavily disappointed when you realize the sharp reality. A lot of people all over the world still don’t understand love. Lack of understanding contributes to divorce and broken hearts. You want your crush to notice you. I get it. Him noticing you will most certainly put you in the running for a love connection. If you are going to marry and are going to stay married you need a bond that is thicker than having sex, having a child, having the same hobbies, liking the same music, or requiring your husband to fill your voids. You need a bond that is thicker than being a “power couple.” You want him to notice you but noticing your curves, hair color, and beautiful eyes before noticing your heart will set the tone for the relationship. It is very difficult to backtrack. A man that is ready to court you will notice your beautiful heart before anything else. You must set the tone to meet him before he comes along. Perhaps you already know him. You must work on your heart first and grow spiritually before you accept an invitation to even awaken love. Do not spend so much time placing how you look before tackling areas of your heart.  Gossip Girl “Please Don’t Talk About Me to Bring Me Down.” Consider not talking about other people to bring them down. A close friend of mine once said “You can build up a lot of hate in your mind.” In relation to talking about another person continuously. The things that people have done to you might have not even been that bad. Maybe a person is a loving and friendly person towards you. You hear gossip about them and your mind builds the person that you invision them to be. Maybe a person has done something that is terrible towards you. If you dwell on the past you won’t be able to heal. The truth is, people are people. There is a difference between good and bad behaviors, but we all have souls. The world will get farther if we show genuine love towards one another instead of putting other people down by gossip. Past Experiences Shape How People React Imagine yourself in a persons shoes before you talk about them. You were born into this world and the generations before you set up how your life is going to be. Your dna was selected by God. In it comes the highs and lows of your ancestors. There was a study done on human dna. Research discovered that when a person experiences something that is traumatizing, their body goes into fight or flight mode. Your ancestors experiences might have been the reason for your anxiety issues. That information is stored. Your family unit whether the experiences are good or bad molds you. If you are able to know the story of your previous generations, you are able to pinpoint why you respond to feelings in certain ways. Consider that before you gossip about someone. Be grateful to be yourself. Environment Shapes How People React Someone is doing something out of character? They didn’t respond in a way that you expected them to respond? They were not exposed to your exact same experiences. They don’t have your same DNA or social expectations. They don’t have your same family dynamic or friend support system. It takes years of people living in the same environment or different environments for peoples minds to become cloudy. It can even take seconds of learning from an experience to decide that you aren’t going to respond in the same way again. It is hard for people to see past what they are exposed to. Gossip doesn’t help people change thier environments. It just breaks people down in the minds of the people who are around them. Don’t make a mistake because it also breaks down the people around them who are the gossipers. It brings out insecurity from the mouth of the gossiper. God wants you to learn how to control your mouth and use your mouth for His glory. Know Who You Are Through Your Creator There is a strength that comes from knowing who you are. You get to know and value yourself by knowing your Creator. Through your Creator you find your purpose. Everyone has multiple purposes that are connected to each other, but not the same. Instead of talking about someone in a negative light and spreading negativity to dim the light they have, offer them prayer and encouragement. Through your mouth speak light in the lives of people and yourself. Take up an interest in other peoples real and true lives. Take up an interest in people who are different from you too. Show genuine love towards people and they will open up with you. You may realize that you have a lot more in common with people than you thought. In that moment you can offer words of wisdom and offer to pray with them. If you can’t get a person to open up ask the Holy Spirit to guide you in how to pray for a person. In the times where you can’t pray with them directly, extend out your arm in their direction and use your voice to declare peace, love, and victory through Christ Jesus over their lives in a voice that only God can hear. How to Interact With The Person You Feel Prompted to Gossip About Sometimes not getting involved socially can be what you need. Sometimes keeping your conversations limited and surfacy can temporarily be the best thing. Ex; (It’s a nice day outside. I like your outfit. How was your vacation?) Deep topics require serious responses. As much as I would like to say that you can get along and be friends with anyone, sometimes it’s not that simple. You can change your heart and want to be open, but that person could be closed off, not trustworthy, and toxic to you. You are looking out for yourself if you know how to tell the difference between a friend and an acquaintance that does not genuinely care about you. Do not tell your personal business to people that don’t genuinely care about you unless you are mentally prepared to handle the criticism. Putting yourself in a vulnerable place might be necessary to build trust in your relationships and friendships, but don’t take it lightly. Keep your topics about business or your schoolwork if you need to interact with someone you are not comfortable with through work or school. If you see potential for growth in the relationship, be prepared to be vulnerable. Just be careful who you trust. Remove Yourself From The Conversation Remember to remove yourself from the conversation if you feel prompted to talk about someone to spread a gossip. If you think it’s okay to test key words to force people to question you, then you are testing the waters. It’s not fair. Write down what you were going to say on a piece of paper and then scribble it off and shred the paper. Throw that gossip in the trash where it belongs. Once you master not talking about others, you must master walking away from gossip. There is a power in walking away from the conversation and even steering it in another direction. Fine tune choosing your questions so that it doesn’t get your conversation listener to talk about other people. If you are prompting other people to talk that makes you just as guilty of gossiping. To steer a conversation in another direction try asking people what they are doing or what they would do on their next vacation and plan it with them. Don’t Make Gossip Your Entertainment Sometimes we feel we need to talk about people to entertain ourselves and our minds. We need to have a wow factor in our day. We want to talk about something exciting and different that prompts us to have a conversation with others. Talking about others could temporarily make us feel better about ourselves and make us forget about our problems. Talking about others could lead to finding commonalities with our peers and forming alliances. We get to know the opinions of others on taboo topics. If we talked about these taboo topics in our own lives we would fear judgement and criticism. Sometimes things are not what they seem. A person could talk about a person kissing their boyfriend behind the school and getting in trouble for it. In reality, they secretly wish they could and they are seeking the approval of their peers or subliminally affirmation for not doing it through condemning others. Seek God for affirmation in the decisions that you should and shouldn’t make. Why should we feel better about ourselves by judging anothers situation? We are not in the same position as them. Why should we form an alliance based off of hate when it will not stop there? That hatred will continue to grow if we don’t sever gossips bondage ties immediately. Make Love A Priority When you make God a priority you learn how to love through Him. God will give you revelation on how to love people in the correct way. Reading your Bible seeking Jesus helps. Sometimes people don’t really know how to be accepting of love. It Is not your fault that they rejected you. It’s the experiences in their lives that molded their perception of what love should look and feel like. You need to recognize this and learn how to reject the spirit of rejection so it doesn’t have the power over your mindset and eventually your life. You find yourself taking on roles that you never wanted to take on. If you love without expectation of love in return, you are being unselfish and not self-serving. Sometimes this is what a person needs to change. If you keep spreading gossip about people, the love that they need to feel won’t get to them. Sometimes it’s like Who Me? Am I really the one? If you don’t see a transformation yet, you are at least meant to plant seeds for change. You may be the one person that steps out on faith and reveals to them what they are needing all along. The Cycle of Gossip Sometimes you as yourself are not a gossiping person at all. You invite a gossiping spirit into your life when you listen to gossip. Since you are listening to gossip you give yourself permission to gossip about the person telling the gossip. That person also grants you the permission to talk about them when they gossip. If you are unaware you can become caught up in a vicious cycle. Now since you are talking about the gossiper, the person you are telling now has the permission they need to talk about you. Be Careful that you don’t take on a persons same vibrations. You can take on their same vibration by stooping to their level and doing the things that they do. Jealousy is Toxic Jealousy is toxic to your health. If the reason you want to gossip about someone is because you secretly want to be them, realize that there is only one you. You can never become another person. You should be the best version of yourself. You yourself can change to like the same things that another person likes. You yourself can take on the attitudes and opinions of others. You can respond differently based on your experiences. You can get a new hairstyle and new clothes. You can get a new career and more money. You as yourself, the person and the soul cannot replace your soul with another persons soul. The only way you can change your soul is by accepting more light inside of it. All things light comes from Jesus. It comes from God. Are you jealous of a persons light or are you jealous of their darkness? The light of a soul has no place with the darkness that could be dormant in a persons soul. Find your light through your Heavenly Father and not another person. A direct contact is better than a filtered connection. Defining Gossip and Seeking Friendship. Gossip isn’t just talking about another person. You can talk about people without it being gossip by saying what you like about them. When it becomes gossip is when you reveal intimate details of their life that have nothing to do with you. Another type of gossip is pointing out their mistakes. People do this because they want their own mistakes to seem more normal and like they are not the only people that make mistakes. Another type of gossip is lying about the person or spreading information that you don’t even know yourself to be true. You are just as at fault of the gossip if you spread false information. You may catch yourself talking about a person who is right in front of you to a friend that you are closer with. You want to ask the person that you feel prompted to talk about a question, but it really is not any of your business. Assess the reason why you have questions. Is it because you want to feel a little more human yourself? Is it because you relate to them? Maybe there is a potential to start a friendship with this person and get on a deeper level. Don’t think that your friendships need to be limited to one friend or one group of people. You aren’t cheating on anyone if you make a new friend. No matter what type of background a person comes from give yourself the approval to get to know different people instead of only talking about them. Have self control over what you speak by giving your issues to God. Create a lot of friendships and light up someones candle through your flame.  References:https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/science/science-news/10486479/Phobias-may-be-memories-passed-down-in-genes-from-ancestors.html
https://www.teenvogue.com/story/slavery-trauma-inherited-genetics https://www.pbs.org/newshour/extra/daily-videos/can-trauma-be-passed-to-next-generation-through-dna/  Pretty For Me
You may think that I get pretty for you, but I get pretty for me. When I dress for myself I feel refreshed, motivated, and comfortable. When I dress for you, I feel not good enough, not myself, and uncomfortable. There are a lot of reasons why I dress for myself. If I am having a day off from work or school, I can wear whatever I want to wear. If I plan on staying in the house all day I get dressed as soon as possible so I can feel productive. If I didn’t take a shower the night before, I will take one as soon as I finish walking my dog and eating breakfast. The feeling of the water massaging my skin in the shower really gets my blood to circulate and makes my mind feel awake. I am able to bring a more productive flow. There is nothing like the feeling of dry armpits and moisturized legs. I pull over my head a soft, airy blouse. I put on my cozy yoga pants. I slip my sweet smelling feet into warm and dry socks. I make myself a hot cup of tea on a cold winter day. I feel comfortable and motivated. My hoodie is my shell where I can feel safe. I feel motivated to plan my day out. If I decide to go outside and put on a pink dress with no shoulders, that is also for me. When I go to public restrooms or take selfies I feel confident that I look pretty in what I’m wearing. I feel prepared to meet new friends that will upgrade my quality of life. I am excited to meet new people that will bless my work-life balance. They will want to be around me because taking one look at me, I refresh them. Since I refresh them, I am able to feel good about myself. We are able to bounce off of each others energies because we both make an effort to feel pretty and comfortable. I may not fit in all that I plan to say to new people, but my outfit and style says it all. I am the fun and loving girl who they will never feel like they are wasting their time with and I am pretty for me. When I dress for other people, I don’t feel like I’m good enough. When I don’t wear the things that I want to wear those items don’t reflect who I want and feel to be. I am forced to wear a piece of clothing, but it makes me feel like a copy when I identify as an original. It may make me feel too revealing. It makes flesh-centered people want to touch me or be around me so they can imagine they are touching me. They choose to not have self control over what they see. They do not value me for my heart, opinions, and ideas, but they value my physical appearance and my body only. Since there are many beautiful people all over the world I will soon be replaced in their life once I am able to speak my mind. Healthy relationships with people are all about being able to share between each other openly and freely with more understanding than judgement. I am able to be myself and feel comfortable. When I am not myself, I am at risk for losing myself and forgetting who I am. Sometimes it can be for the better, but a lot of the times it is for the worse. As I lose myself in the revealing clothing that is picked for me and the clothing that I feel pressured to wear, I lose my spiritual innocence. A uniform can give a sense of belonging, pride, recognition, organization, and minimize the pressure for poor kids to fit in with the latest clothing. If you need to wear a uniform, don’t lose yourself in it. Wear it respectably by ironing it, sewing the rips, and taking away the lint. You can still wear a uniform and be seen as an individual by your personality. Treat people kindly without sarcasm and making yourself seem smarter than they are by pointing out their faults. There is a way to communicate with people that makes people empowered to grow instead of making them feel as if they have fallen short of excellence. Pretty For Me. When I don’t feel good enough the best thing in the world is to be able to put on whatever I feel comfortable and alive in….and take a selfie. And save it to my gallery without sharing it with anyone but myself. Instead of not sharing because I don’t feel I am beautiful, I tell myself that I am beautiful. I am excellent. I am enough. I am more than enough for him. I am content with my beauty. I am pretty for me.  "You Are Like A Sister To Me: I loved you from the first time I saw you" Friendship and Sister Soul Ties
Sometimes it’s difficult for me as an adult to find girlfriends. I meet a girl that I think is interesting and cute. We go out for a few friend outings. As I get to know her then the story unravels about who she is as a person and what she stands for. I have compiled a list of friendship deal breakers. Creating value in each others lives is an important aspect of a friendship or sister-bond. People often don’t think of having sister soul ties, but this can effect both sisters in their growth. It is important to remember that relationships are all about trust. Without trust there is a limited friendship. There are a lot of people on this planet and they all need different things. Not everyone is looking for a friend when they meet you. It doesn’t mean that you aren’t worthy of friendship if a connection doesn’t work out. Keep being open to meeting that special friend that you can do life with. Sometimes they are closer than you think. The internal heart matters more than the external appearance. Friendship Deal Breakers There are some deal breakers as to whether I want to continue growing my friendships with women. One big deal breaker is the respect she gives to God and Christians because I am a Christian. It is a deal breaker if she shows any sign of disrespect. Another deal breaker is cancelling all the time. When I set plans, I try really hard not to cancel. The only way I cancel is if I have to work, am sick, or have some sort of transportation issue. There are other reasons I might cancel, like changing my mind about the person altogether. Count on that happening if they are disrespectful towards myself or the people that I associate with. Count on that if they lie or steal. Dishonestly and disloyalty lead to trust issues which create a relationship that is difficult to manage and better off disconnected. Create Value In My Life: Build Friendships I usually like to be around women that create some sort of value in my life. I know that sounds tacky, but its true. If they are a leech, eventually I get drained from being around them. If they provide emotional support, they stay friends with me. If I can’t trust them from the beginning or find out that I can’t trust them, it’s over. I feel like I want to support people for what they are going though. I want to help people. I want to help everyone. I am only human too! I need to be listened to. It needs to be about me sometimes and what I want to do. I want to choose the destination and the book title. When I’m in a friendship often times it is difficult to not put the other person first. I am a giver. There’s no other way that I feel like a loving human. To give is to feel. However, I cannot neglect myself. Friends can create value by being a listening ear, an encourager, and physically making an effort to be there when it matters. Sister Soul Ties It is hard to say no to a sister. I mean, you see them. You love them. You would give the shirt off your back for them. You create that special bond. DNA and blood definitely bridges families together. I wouldn’t have it any other way. Being linked to another person who is like me? That is a miracle. I have a real sister. I don’t get to spend much time with her because we’ve always lived far away from each other. But we connect when we are together. At least I feel that we do. Sometimes you can have a sister that is not related to you though. I’ve had my share of fill-in sisters and I still want to strengthen that bond with my sister-friends. When you are closely connected to another person you can create a thing called a soul tie. Being soul tied to another female can be just as helpful or hurtful as being in a romantic relationship. You don’t need romance to be soul tied to another female. You will know you are soul tied when you are emotionally involved. Don’t let your emotions take over for people who don’t bother to give you the support that you deserve. Trust Your Friend To Build Your Relationship or Disconnect If you’ve taken a risk and given your friend the benefit of the doubt that she won’t infect your life with negativity and she did, it is hard to continue. Oftentimes disloyalty happens when you least expect it. Before entrusting your friend with your biggest secrets, trust them with small secrets that won’t ruin what you’ve got going on. See if they can be trustworthy with the small stuff and then build with more sharing if they prove themselves loyal. Often times if we feel the sister bond and connection very early in the relationship we are tempted to entrust them with our whole lives like they are an extension of ourselves. We need to remember that another person is not you and everyone responds differently to situations and knowledge. Forgiveness When does forgiveness matter the most? Forgiveness matters when you have to live with the person or see them on a day to day basis. Even if they live far away forgiveness matters. It is not healthy for you to hold on to old, negative feelings. Even if you forget the person, your unforgiveness will manifest in new relationships by how you respond. Emotional traumas effect how you respond to new people. Emotional traumas can even be transferred through generations to your children through your DNA. Our ancestors have transferred positive and negative energies to us. If we are aware of that we can make conscious decisions to serve each other through love that is pleasing to God. We must not act in a way that we have been conditioned to think is okay through culture, modern society, and family patterns. We need to be more aware of how deeply our decisions to not let go of old feelings can mentally effect us and the others around us. How to Forgive The first step in forgiveness is give it to God. Do not try to take revenge in your own hands. Step two is take a break for yourself. Don’t be around that person consistently. Take the time that you need to heal up. Next step is to show love. If you see that person, greet them with a smile and hold open their door. Buy them a coffee or send them a thank you note. You don’t have to go out of your way to meet up if you are not ready. You can forgive them from a distance by talking about the positive sides about them when they come up in conversation or your thought process. The final step is to pray for them. Ask God for His forgiveness for yourself and ask God to forgive them and reveal to them their mistakes towards you in a loving way for their own growth. Ask God to remove all negative feelings from your consciousness. Next, decide whether their positive traits outweigh their negative ones. If you need to break the ties do so calmly, appropriately, and lovingly. Sometimes relationships are best put on hold until the appropriate time. Sometimes relationships stand the test of time. Be the Friend That You Want to Meet Don’t just wish you had friends and complain that you don’t have them. Go out of your way to connect with people. It is so easy to let your friends find you, but sometimes you need to find your friends. Sometimes if you are an introvert, you need to force yourself to be extroverted in a situation to make a friend. Sometimes you only get one chance to connect with a person. Sometimes you will get multiple chances. Put your best foot forward and dress your best. Start a friendly conversation with positive reinforcement and an invite for tea. Don’t only talk about the weather and force them to follow you on social media. Show them you care for them as a person. Ask them about themselves and listen more than you speak. You never know what first impression you can make on a person that will lead to a lifelong friendship. Friendships are a blessing. Remember to love them.  You Deserve More
Your value is greater than silver, gold, or platinum. Your value is greater than a 1 billion dollar mansion. A lot of kids have dreams growing up. They think that they will be in a career by a certain time as an adult. They get to adulthood and their situation may change. Sometimes people realize their dreams are harder to reach than they once seemed. They realize this when they graduate high school or when they graduate college with student loans. They might even realize that happiness from their chosen career is harder to come by after they have already settled in. There is always a constant pursuit of happiness. Sometimes people get to where they want to be and they realize that they want more or that they are bored of what they are doing. Sometimes a dream is not God’s plan and God’s purpose for you. Maybe you are supposed to be somewhere at a specific point in time. At a specific date you may be the one to tell somebody something that will be life-altering for them. It’s not just you in the world even if you feel alone. There are a lot of other factors involved. There are a lot of other people involved in your life whether you know it or not. You are an influence on people whether you know them or not. You could feel like you are only an innocent bystander and a Superwoman looked at you before she save the day. You saved our day. Don’t settle in a job that you are not happy and fulfilled in. Push yourself to your limit. When God says go you go. Hunger ain’t nuting but a ting. Travel ain’t nothing but your pinky ring. Sweat is a minor detour. Tangles make you explore. If there are no friends in your life get it together girl. Be a friend to somebody and don’t be shy about it. Do not be ashamed. Try saying “I deserve more. I deserve my freedom and I deserve to live in my purpose. I deserve to be happy.” The only way you truly deserve these things is if you treat people right with respect and regard. For your conscience to be clear you need to give your sins to the Lord completely and wholeheartedly. Know that you are forgiven and loved. You are indeed blessed. When you come into your blessing people will look at you and they’ll ask themselves “How did she get to deserve that and how is it possible that she was able to find true happiness?” They will look for your smile and not your material possessions if they are wise. Only the individual person whether they are a celebrity or not knows if they are truly happy. You deserve more. Create a vision board. Paste pictures that you like and inspirational sayings that make you dream. If you see it every day eventually it will become your reality if you are open to receiving from God. The dreams that you are forming make you push forward. The happiness you picture to have in your life is attainable. Don't get it twisted. Joy comes from the Lord.  Childlike Faith Having childlike faith means to me that I am trusting whole heartedly and completely. Like a child, I am sheltered from the worlds tribulations. I don’t even think about all the bad things that could happen because I know that my Father (Jesus Christ) has got me. I have nothing to fear. I am not saying that you should not be wise. God gives wisdom to those who ask for it. Sometimes dreams and goals seem like they are unlikely to come to fruition, but we know that we are drawn to them by destiny. This is when we must exercise our faith. Certainly God wants us to be a blessing to others and show His power for the world to see. There are a lot of Christians who don’t exercise their faith because of their poverty mentality or worldly mindset. If you have Christ within you, surely you can see miracles here on Earth even in your own life. Often times we want to feel as comfortable and secure as possible, and doing so we live the same routine over again because it has worked for us. We think that the blessings that we have are the only blessings we are entitled to receive. We want more but don’t know how to access it. Change comes from stepping out on faith like a child. To act in faith we must step out of our comfort zone. This does not mean simply hiding your eyes as if you are dropping down from the top of a rollercoaster. During your faith walk you need to trust in the Spirit of the living God by praising Him, praying to Him, spending time with Him, and speaking positively about Him to others. You should also hold your tongue from all negative talk. Your faith walk for specific circumstances could be 2 hours, 2 weeks, or 40 years. How will we ever know if we should receive 10 fold what we ask for if we don’t but our faith and trust in Him who made us? When you see an opportunity, if it seems like it’s out of your comfort zone, but it seems like the stepping stone to get to where you want to be, you should pray about it. Maybe God wants you to take a leap of faith and trust Him. If you feel peace in your spirit, that’s how you know it is the right thing for you. If you see warning signs and shut doors that you are trying to force open, it could mean God is trying to protect you from making a big mistake. Making a mistake is okay. It let’s you learn and tests you to grow. It doesn’t mean that there won’t be challenges and obstacles you have to go through in your faith walk. Usually there are. With God on your side who dares to be against you? You are powerful with the Creator as your mentor. You need to cut out nervous eating, nervous picking, and nervous hair twirling. These habits come from a place on anxiety and fear. It comes from the fears that we won’t get enough or be enough. God has given us completion in Him. He is a loyal partner that will never fail us and knows what is best for us. Purpose, fulfillment, destiny…It is more than being comfortable. Remember that God never gives us anything that we can’t handle and life is a blessing that we should not take for granted. Life on Earth is also temporary and God is waiting for us to choose Him on our own. Through childlike faith it is the only way we will have access to the Kingdom of God. We cannot afford to waste time in stagnacy, not exercising our faith and loving with our whole hearts. |
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