CurlyDollTati #151

        He Cannot Lead You If He Does Not Love You: Change The Game


     You are asking for the wrong man to lead you Sis. Does this  resonate with you? Does he come to mind?  If so keep reading. You choose to love him because he has everything in common with you. Everyone says you would be cute together with him or you are cute together. He shows you attention sometimes. He talks to you. He follows you. He seeks thrill, he wants your affection. He speaks harshly to you. He offers you conditional love. He alienates you. He moves your heart. He always wants an ego boost from you. You hold back affection. He keeps coming for you. He seeks out attention from other women that are nowhere near your level. Sis, Don’t give him the attention he doesn’t deserve. He does not earn your love. Act normal. Be calm and in control.  You don’t need him being in control of your life. Don’t text him. Don’t try to be friends with him. Don’t let him into your heart.  Your only exception should be when he begs for your affection under your terms and conditions.  Otherwise, he’s just playing mind games with you and doesn’t want to give you any real love.  Don’t you want to have a serious relationship and a real mature love exchange? If you keep letting him play games with you from the beginning of your relationships that is all it will ever be. A game. You think that other girls are making it harder to find good guys because they are lowering their standards and giving him the goods before he buys the cow. But now you are slowly becoming one of them, like a cow to the slaughterhouse.  Soon you will be nothing but a hamburger crushed by your crush…And unable to escape the pains of excretion as he uses you for your nutrients and then releases you suddenly and quickly. Be the change that you want to see in the world and God will bless your future in relationships.  If you want a real love exchange stay true to yourself and don’t give in to breaking your morals. The cards are in your hands. You have the power and you are stronger than you think. Don’t put yourself in situations that will tempt you. 
     If women and girls all around the world were led by Gods will when they started a relationship with anyone, there would be less heartbreak.  Men would step up to the plate of what they are supposed to be doing because now the game would be changed.  They would respect and value us more if we set expectations and requirements.  Communicate what you need from him.  There would be more commitment, standards, and respect in relationships.  It is hurt people that hurt people. When you are hurt by someone it is up to you to let it fester up inside you and take your revenge out on another innocent love, or to let it go.  You need to let your hurt go Sis. You are only hurting yourself in the process if you keep dwelling on negative vibes.  You think you’re his soulmate, but he does not feel the same. I know it is difficult, but if you pay attention to the obvious warning signs as soon as possible it will save you eons of heartache and course correction.  A man who does not love you cannot lead you.